Elements of Happiness #4: Vocabulary
This article is the fourth in a series that discusses the essential elements of happiness.
Having a robust happiness-related vocabulary is key to maintaining a positive outlook. Our lives are spent creating meaning in the world around us. We constantly use our inner dialogue to tell stories about the facts around us. We express ourselves verbally and tell others what we think. The words that we use powerfully structure our attitudes and desires. It is critical that we use words that support our desire to be happy.
What is your typical reply to the question “how are you doing?” Do you say “fine,” or “OK.” If you were to reply with the words “terrific” or “fantastic” you may experience a subtle improvement your emotional state. Your mind obediently believes what it is told, especially if the mind is told again and again. This is basis for commercial advertising on television and radio.
There are many happiness-related words, consider creating a list of positive words you enjoy using. Remind yourself to use these words regularly. Use words such as terrific, marvelous, fantastic, lovely, beautiful, admirable, considerate, lively, agreeable, encouraging, sublime, earnest, bright, playful, genuine, blissful, easy-going, grand, radiant, balanced, strong and special.
Ensure that that you refrain from using negative words. Never speak words like evil, horrid, terrible, horrible, disgusting and wicked. When people around you use these words, challenge their use of that word. Truthfully, in your experience have you ever confronted someone or something that was truly wicked? I have seen confused people. I have seen hurting and desperate people. I have seen situations that were mixed-up or complicated, but I have never seen with my own eyes a person or situation that could accurately be described as wicked.
