In the last few posts, we have been exploring the word “should” and its relationship to happiness. A thorough understanding of the word should is important as there are many pitfalls regarding its use that have the potential to create emotional pain.
One of the most common and dangerous uses of the word should is in relation to [...]

The best plan is to use the word “should” as little as possible.
Every time you use the word “should” something special happens, you start to tell a story about the past or the future.  
An example of a story of the past is, “I should have joined the football team”. What has happened here is that in [...]

Welcome to the March 27, 2007 edition of happiness carnival.

Alan presents Choosing a Self-Help Guru, Site or Program posted at Made to Be Great.

Karen Lynch presents Enjoy Every Sandwich posted at LivethePower.

Shelley M. Fondren, CMT presents Beware of hungry ghosts posted at Massage, Mind & Body, saying, “This blog is [...]

Let’s further investigate the word “should”. In the previous post I discussed how every should has one of two bases. The second basis is the should based on your beliefs about reality.
For instance, you may be relaxing at home at the table drinking a cup of coffee that your husband had prepared earlier for you. You look [...]

How many times have you said to yourself, “That shouldn’t have happened!”, and then proceeded to feel angry, fearful or sad?
For every “should” that you think, ask yourself what is the basis for that should? The answer might surprise you.
There are two possible bases for every “should”,

A should based on reality
A should based on your beliefs about [...]